Saturday, March 20, 2010

8 LESSONS TO THE UNMARRIED




1. Believe that God is more interested in giving you a good spouse more than you are interested in getting one: In a simple rendition take no thought of tomorrow because you cannot add a cubit to your life by worrying. Your heavenly father knows that you have need of these things. So relax!



2. Look out for a man or woman who does not love you more than s/he loves God: A man/woman in love with God can never love you less. Start shifting your gaze from just any person and start looking out for someone in love with God. Not just a church goer but one sincerely in love with God.



3. Look not for a perfect man/woman or the so called will of God for you: Rather make yourself perfect and the will of God for somebody. You can only get the will of God when you turn to become God's will for something. If you are God, would you really give somebody like you out to a son you love? If no, then there is a lifestyle, a character and a disposition you must consciously work on before God will see you perfect enough for a man/woman.



4. Buy books on marriage, relationship and parenting and read: Feed your mind with issues of the next level you desire. Read books on how to be a wonderful husband/wife. Do not get into marriage to prepare, prepare yourself before you get into it. Let the man come in to see a super respectful wife, home keeper, supporter, lover and a friend. Don’t let him see you trying to be a wife. It’s said that if you want to be a millionaire, think like one. Same is true for marriage. If you want to be a wife/husband any time soon, think like one.



5. The worst mistake to make is to allow him/her see you before marrying you: Any man/woman who cannot wait is not yours! Q.E.D. Suspecting one another will become the order of the day if you 'do it' before saying 'we do'. Do not let any man see you until the two of you have seen God before witnesses and the ministers pray over you. Until then, hold on! If he cannot wait, sex won’t keep him. Most times, after sex those that look like they will stay, don't stay. It’s more beautiful when it's done after wedding. Trust me!



6. No matter what, never settle for a man who has not settled for anything: Where is he going in life? Where is he taking you to? 5 years from now, who will know him? Would he have become a public figure making waves in business, politics, career, ministry or banking sector. 10 years from now, would he have become a consultant, professional, making headlines and appearing in front page of national dailies? Does he know where he is going in life, who he is and what he's worth? If he does, he should be able to communicate it to you. Any man who comes with only 'I love you' does not have anything to offer. Beyond 'I love you' the real passion that should be burning in a man's heart is where he is headed. If he is headed no where, he doesn't have a head. In my language it’s said as ‘o nwero isi!’



7. Close up with God: Anybody can give you husband/wife, but nobody can give you the kind God can. It takes God to smile forever. It takes God to be happy forever. Every good and perfect gift comes from God, the father of light in whom there is neither variableness nor shadow of turning. God is all you need to have all your needs met. Without God you can do nothing. It means whatever you do, will turn out to be nothing, ‘NO-THING’. If you marry without God it will be a nothing marriage. Nothing to show, nothing to be happy about in the marriage. The only person that guarantees something is God. GO FOR GOD!



8. A. Locate a successful marriage, a mature couple and become their protégé: Experienced, aged and well exposed married woman and her husband who you can learn a lot from.

B. Sow a seed to a successful marriage: Those of your friends. It’s a sign that you rejoice with them and that you are positioning yourself to get what they got. Seeds open doors for you. God got all of us because He released His only begotten son (JESUS). Most times when you release that which is your only, you get more. Before peter, released his boat for Christ to preach; he had suffered all night and caught no fish. But what you suffer from can end when you sow a quality seed. Talking about seed is NEVER a stratagem to get money extortionately from you. It’s a principle that works. Locate a marriage that is working, blissful and Godly and sow into it. What you celebrate, you attract.

Shalom!

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

MONEY




I was chatting with a great friend on facebook, and she asked if I like money. Sure I do, I answered. I told her that money answereth all things and that money is also a defense. I said to her that even the kingdom of God spreads abroad through prosperity. I have never seen frustration that is as much as that of a broke man. You don’t want to know what it feels like to have a sick child and you cannot take him to the hospital because you don’t have money, to get even the common hospital (patient’s) card. So many serious sicknesses that require professional touch have ended up in the hands of the amateur just because there is no fund to consult the professionals. Lack of just $100 or N10, 000 down payment for just a simple operation has marshaled so many into untimely grave. What you are not angry about, you cannot change. If you are ok with poverty, poverty will be ok with you. If you know the devastating effect of poverty, you will curse it from your heart. The cure to poverty is not in praying and fasting, it’s in understanding, subscribing and operating the covenant of prosperity. See, if you understand prosperity and its operations, you will live above poverty. The bible says that good understanding procureth favour. So the cure to poverty is prosperity.

What then is prosperity?

Trying to define this same question way back in university to a friend, I said that prosperity is being able to get whatever you want, when you want it and if you like, how you want it. Funny, right? But if the earth is the Lords’ and its fullness thereof, then you have access to all. All things are yours and you are Christ’s and Christ is God’s. So work, walk and talk yourself into that dimension of affluence where you can desire anything and it is yours. Desire a vacation and you are in the best country in the world. Desire a car and the latest model of whatever brand you desire is packed in your garage. Desire to expand the kingdom and church structures are springing up every where! If God opens His hand to satisfy the desires of every living thing, then Get ready! Get ready!! Get ready!!! Because SOMETHING IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN.

Let me say it for the often time, Money is good, the love of it is the root of all evil, but the lack of it is the source of great and devastating disaster. Wait a minute; don’t you want your children in a good school? Don’t you want to live in a good house? Pastor Paul Adefarasin (my Papa) once said that one good thing you must do for your children is to give them a big house as they grow up. Because children that grew up in small houses have a way of thinking small, but those that grew up in big mansions, think big. Please, even if you don’t like money, for the sake of your children, have it! I have made up my mind, I can never be poor!

HOW DO I BECOME PROSPEROUS?

M: Make, manage and multiply your income: Don’t be satisfied with your monthly income. The God you serve daily loads you with benefits. How can you have the promise of daily blessing and you tie your whole life to monthly allowance? You can turn your monthly income to daily income by understanding how to make money. You can simply make money by converting that your monthly income which is an active income into a passive income. This is simple; send your money out while you rest. Don’t work for your money; let your money work for you. Start up a business, invest in chain marketing businesses and grab investment opportunities.
Secondly learn how to manage your money. Here you may need the services of professionals in managing your money for you. Learn how to cut off excesses. Do not include miscellaneous in your budget; I am sure you are not a waster. Money down to the last penny should have something that it’s meant for. Please, manage your money.
Lastly is multiply your money. Grow it from that miserable N20, 000 to a million dollars. In fact men have grown from N5, 000 to multimillionaires. You too can. Invest your money in a well studied business. There is he that gathereth, yet tendeth to poverty, but there is he that scattereth, yet tendeth to prosperity. Money is not meant to be gathered and kept, money is meant to be scattered.

• O: Operate the covenant: The principle of tithe, offering and giving is very much valid. No matter your stand or belief on this, it’s a solid covenant operation that can liberate you from poverty forever. Give to God, never withhold from Him. Give for the expansion of His kingdom and His works. Give to a good and worthy course. Give to the poor and needy, the orphans, widows and helpless. Give to them that don’t have. It’s more blessed to give than to receive. Your blessing is tied to your giving. What about the priest? Give to them also. Believe the Lord your God and you will be established, believe also in His prophets and you will prosper. He that gives a cup of water to a prophet in the name of a prophet will receive a prophet’s reward. You cannot bless God’s servants without them blessing you in return. Please operate the covenants, when you do, you can never miss your prosperity.

N: Network: He that works with the wise shall be wise, but the companion of fools shall be destroyed. Who you work with matters a lot. Friendship, a wise man said, is not by force, it’s by choice. Do not allow your friends choose you, you choose your friends. If a poor man is your friend, where do you hope to get the inspiration, motivation or even evidence that will make you rich? If your present network cannot raise you 10million when you are in a challenge, you may consider reshuffling that network. If you want to be a millionaire, think like one, but how can you think like one when you don’t have one as a friend? Your network matters a lot. Still on this network point, do join a strong network marketing structure with a good credibility. It helps also.

• E: Empower yourself financially: Get materials on finances and money. The strongest area to invest in is you. Attend seminars, go for trainings. Do not be outdated in an updated world. Being obsolete in today’s world is just killing yourself. When there are people that have gone ahead of you, why don’t you learn from them and move ahead also. Copy and paste, I have discovered, is the easiest way to succeed. Buy books, get tapes. Equip yourself with relevant information. Knowledge is power!

• Y: Yield yourself to God: Money is a strong spirit. One truth about money is that it’s spiritual and the name of the spirit is called mammon. It’s either you are serving God with your money or you are serving devil with it. There is no middle ground. When God blesses you, nobody can reverse it. Yield yourself, your money, your family and your life to God if you want to enjoy your money.

These are the 5 things you must do to remain wealthy and rich. Don’t for get:

1. M: Make, Manage and Multiply your income
2. O: Operate the covenant
3. N: Network
4. E: Empower yourself financially
5. Y: Yield yourself to God


Shalom!
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Monday, March 8, 2010

THE PROCESS OF CHANGE 2: (The Word of God)




Last time on this article we talked about
1. The living word
2. The written word
3. The spoken word

The living word is the person of Jesus Christ who is living (alive) right now in Heaven. When we get acquainted with Him the blessings recorded in Job 22: 21 – 30 would become ours for a taking. But if we are separated from him we risk being prey in the hands of the devil. To get the best from the living word is to draw close to Him, get acquainted with Him through worship, prayer and of course the word.

THE WRITTEN WORD: The second level of the word of God is the written word. This is the logos. What it does is that it helps us to close up with the living word. Through the instrumentality of the written word a close acquaintance is developed with the living word. Simply put, when you are exposed to the written word, you become the best friend of the living word. How does it operate?
• It gives immediate and eventual direction or you can call it short and long term direction. (Psalm 119: 105)
• It gives liberty from sin (psalm 119: 11)
• It gives mercy and salvation (psalm 119: 41)

THE SPOKEN WORD: It’s time to let your mouth loose. Speak the word in season and out of season. Tell the devil not here! Not my health because it’s written by His stripes I am healed. The place of the spoken word is to release what you’ve gotten from the living word through the written word. When the living word breaths life into the written word concerning your situation, that is the time to turn it into a RHEMA. Speak out baby! Speak your way to destiny. A closed mouth is a closed destiny. The weapons of our warfare are not canal but they are mighty through God. The only weapon that you have which is mighty through God is the spoken word. Words are weapons. Evil men use words, occultists use words. Incantations/divinations are words. If you are the only person not speaking then you are about to become a victim in the battle of life. Let me add a scripture to it:
Romans 8: 12 “But what saith it? The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach.”
The word is not just nigh thee, it’s even in your heart and mouth. It is not an ordinary word. It’s words, backed with faith. The preaching that you have received over time. That conviction in your spirit that faithful is He that has promised, who will also do it. Yours is just to speak out. You don’t need a loud speaker, you have no need for an amplifier, all you’ve got to do is to shout it at the roof top ‘DEVIL I AM NOT A CANDIDATE OF FAILURE!’ because I am the head and not the tail. He that is from above is above all! I am from above; I am seated with Christ in heavenly places far above principalities and powers. I am above you, more than you, sharper than you, wiser than you; I am a mystery that you cannot demystify. I am a wind, all you can see are my effects but you cannot predict where I am headed or where I am originating from. Devil; I AM TOO MUCH!
One truth about the word of God in your mouth is that just as it is in Jesus’ mouth that is how it is in your mouth. Hear what Jesus said in John 6:63

It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.
Your words also are spirits and life. It can quicken and bring dead things and situations back to life. The power of life and death is in the tongue. Always remember that the words in your mouth are spirits and they do give life. Therefore SPEAK!
Hope you have been blessed by this short thought of mine before I invite you for the part three (3) of the process of change, let me quickly conclude that one of the enemies of the spoken word is living by the flesh. Do not forget, the flesh ‘…profitteth nothing.’ You are guaranteed no profit when you live after the flesh. My submission is this: for your words to carry power live above and beyond the flesh.
Well, that is all for now. Thanks for staying through. If it blessed you please do let me know. Comment on the blog or my facebook, cast a vote below and send me a mail. (pstiyke@gmail.com)
I love you.
Shalom!

Monday, March 1, 2010

MARITAL CHANGE SERIES: Living Above Divorce



Welcome to March, your Month of Marching Forward, Coming out from Hiding and Divine Speed. God is going to favour you in this awesome month. Your life cannot remain the same any more. There is gonna be a divine unveiling and exposure. Those that use to look down on you will start to look up to you. You are a reference point, you are a force to be reckoned with, You are simply great!
I say to you welcome.

Today, I want to introduce the marital change series, then go back to finish the process of change which I started some time last week.
I want to state it here and now that marriage is not a game, not for children and must not be rushed into. Do not settle for just any man because you are getting old and your friends are married and you are not. Your friends are not you, they don't have the same destination and destiny with you. Wait for your time, wait for your man and as you wait, maximize your singlehood.




The devil empowered against marriages in this generation is the devil of divorce. I want to quickly bring out about six (6) points on how to live above divorce and enjoy a blissful marriage. Please open to Malachi 2: 14 - 16





Yet ye say, "Why?" Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously; yet she is thy companion and the wife of thy covenant. And did not He make one? Yet had He the residue of the spirit. And why one? That He might seek a godly seed! Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away; for one covereth violence with his garment," saith the LORD of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously."






  1. The fact that God was a witness to the marriage is enough reason for divorce never to be comtemplated. He saw all the songs of love you sang to her, He witnessed all the promises you made to her, He witnessed the vows you made to each other on the wedding day. The Lord saw all of that. It will therefore be an insult to consider the person of the Lord (meaning: the owner) who witnessed your marriage and without fear a reverance for Him back out of what you promised was going to be forever. If you do, you never acknowledged Him as the Lord in the first place.


  2. The fact that marriage was for companionship and covenant. God is a covenant keeping God and if we are made in His image and likeness we have no choice, disposition or option but to be people of covenant. When we understand covenant, there will be no wrong-doing strong enough to make us file for divorce. Yes, Eve made Adam to fall off God's grace, goodness, presence and other great things including the garden. Yet Adam stayed with Eve until their death. No matter the wrong done, stay! The responsibility of marriage is that when one falls, the other will help him up. Running away at the down fall of your partner in the name of irreconcilable differences is lack of understanding covenant. Imagine that you are married to God, have you not done stuff that God should consider irreconcilable differences and back out from the marriage? But no, He will stay with you till the end. That is covenant!


  3. The fact that God never created us seperately. Even before God made Adam to sleep and He brought out his rib to form Eve, He had already made them one. The intention of God is family. Oneness is the expression of resembling God. God is one with Himself. Nothing can ever seperate God the father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. I made up my mind that the day something seperates them, then my marriage can be seperated. But if nothing can, nothing should seperate your marriage. You can live above divorce!


  4. The fact that godly seeds are invloved please don't consider divorce. Disfunctional children are a result of disfunctional homes. Greater percentage of prostitutes in our streets today are as a result of broken homes. It's not easy to grow up having a father who is not fathering you and a mother who is not close by. Fatherhood is not sweet from a distance. Come home, your children are in need of you. Prodigal fathers and mothers, please return back to your children. Don't forget "That He may seek a godly seed" Please for the sake of the seed given to you by God, Live Above Divorce!


  5. The fact that you should take heed to your spirit. Stay in tune with the real you. I know that the real you cannot lust after another lady. Keep your spirit on fire. "Henceforth know we no man after the flesh" If you know your wife or husband after the flesh, you will leave him/her because of the flesh. Get to know each other after the spirit. Spirit filled marriage can never break apart. Can the Holy Spirit ever advise anybody to file a divorce paper? I don't think so. If the Holy spirit is the one driving the ship of your marriage, Never will it capsize. Husbands, Wives, please take Heed to your spirit if you must live above divorce.


  6. Finally, is the fact that God hates Divorce. It therefore means that if you are contemplating Divorce, you are doing what God hates. I discovered that the reason why God loves people is because they do that which He loves. When a man sees what is clearly stated in the scriptures as what God hates and he is still going ahead with it, such a person must be unwise, (let me not use the word foolish). Please if God hates it, let us also hate it. Don't put your wife away, Don't put your husband away.

CONCLUSION:

I know that you know your right. But for the sake of peace, don't always stand by your right or claim your right. Play the fool some times, it does not make you foolish. Those things you used to do before marriage and at the early stage of marriage, start of all over again. Do not joke with forgiveness because marriage is the coming together of two givers that are also forgivers. Do yourself a favour, love your family. Yes, you can!

Shalom!